Tinder, Oh Tinder, a free app that has me enraged and concerned.
What is Tinder you may ask, its an app that shows you pictures of people and you swipe right to like them, and left to reject them, and if they swipe you to the right as well it creates a match and you are connected to each other, but let them tell you . . .
“Tinder finds out who likes you nearby and connects you with them if you’re also interested. It’s the new way to meet people around you.”
Seems innocent enough right,
I’m not convinced and even if my blog is traditionally all about fashion its also about attacking the worst excesses of things that undermine self confidence or attack peoples body image. Thats why I’m not happy about this, while it might be fun, and you might find a date, this idea of basically judging people on their profile pic is horrible, defining who you are in a millisecond.
I’m not going to deny the role attraction plays in dating, relationships etc, there are many academic studies out there for you to read if you so wish, but doesn’t it strike you as odd that we end up here. Its accepted in internet dating for example that people will be clicked on via their profile pic, but many of the sites will also prompt you towards people based on interests or similar loves. What Tinder does is reduce a dating site down to “would I” and isn’t that a terrible and base way to look for a life partner?
For some this will be great they will get loads of attention and interest, but what about the flip side, what about those that never get a right swipe, how will they feel, how will the continual return to check the app and finding that nobody likes you affect them. I will go out on a limb here, I’ll wager that anyone who doesn’t fit into the predetermined idea of what beautiful is will have few or no matches.
I hate the idea that using this app would lead me into actions that would undermine someones self confidence, or make them feel ashamed of the way they look. Everyone of us is beautiful and unique in our own way, lets stop hurting people we’ve never met because their not Clooney or Gisele.
I know some of you use it but its not for me,
Oh and while we’re at it, there is a huge issue with the amount of data they want to access in return for your oppotunity to call someone ugly.