yesterday I tweeted about how cool it was a guy had a bum bag on Four In A Bed, yes I do watch some crap, I’m aware of this./
I stand by my tweet,
I had a few replies and other messages, based around 2 main themes, he has a bum bag, he can’t be cool, or are you taking the piss out of him.
The answer is he is cool, and no I wasn’t taking the piss. Let me explain why . . .
He was a really nice man, and funny, charming, and yes a little eccentric, these are all good things, but mainly here is a man utterly comfortable with who he is, that is happy with his style choices. He likes his bum bag so he wears it. How many of us have thought they couldn’t/shouldn’t wear something because of what other people might say and how we may be judged.
It also made me think, we have a problem here in fashion blogger world, what we basically do is pass judgement on what style is, we may do it in a “positive” way by saying we like this, we may do it in a “negative” way by slating things we don’t like but in essence we are still acting as the arbiters of style.
How do we get round this I have no idea, I’ve tried to move my blog away from being negative, bitchy or judgmental but I’m still via making suggestions of the things I like and am willing to share or via supporting designers I admire still telling you what I think you should do. So I have to this to say . . .
You don’t have to listen to me, any other blogger, any tv show, any magazine or anyone in fact ever. You only have to listen to yourself, listen to what your heart tells you, express your individuality, express who you are, let us love you for that, not the constructed identity this fashion thing can try and force upon you. Anyone writing about fashion should only help inspire your individuality via suggestion.
As part of the changing identity of FashionWorked, a while back I made a commitment to be more inclusive, and I hope I’ve stuck to that, if not my request still stands, please call me out on it.
Now in a true show of instant hypocrisy I’m off to google scarves for a best of the net feature. I apologise in advance.