Body image. The way that we see ourselves is ruled by both the distorted vision of what we think we look like in our head and also by what society has told us that we should look like.
Ask any woman what she likes about her face or body and I guarantee that in the majority, you will be waiting longer for an answer than if you had asked what she disliked. The thing is though; your imperfections and the differences between your face and body to the people around you are what make you special. It just takes a long time to figure that out and some of us never do.
I have always struggled with the way I look. I could give you a catalogue of things that I don’t like about myself: wonky eyebrows, too fat; waist too short; breasts too big etc etc. I always presumed that because of these things that I was automatically unattractive to the opposite sex and have worked on that presumption for as long as I can remember.
It is only through blogging, talking to other plus size bloggers and receiving comments on my blog from men and women alike that I began to realise that there isn’t just one type of person that people are attracted too.
Every person on the planet looks different to the rest which is a good thing and is something to be celebrated. Each of us has our own distinctive look, just as each of us have our own personal preference for what we find attractive in others.
The underlying truth of it all is that confidence is the most attractive thing you can have. Whether you are tall, short, fat, thin, blonde or brunette; if you have confidence, you are already there.
With confidence comes a desire to wear clothing that reflects that assurance. The fashion industry are (slowly) also catching on to the fact that all women want to participate in fashion, no matter what their size, and feel good wearing it. Fashion has come a long way since the days of the equivalent of black sack available to wear for the plus sizes.
Stores like SimplyBe, New Look and Evans are paving the way in terms of fashion inclusivity and hopefully in time, others will too.